Have you ever felt heavy after hours of surfing the internet? You jump from profile to profile, article to article, and just as you’re about to shut down the computer, you feel empty. This may be because most of the pages on the worldwide web these days contain topics about people who are toxic and stressed. These are energy vampires who suck all the positive energy out of your system and replace it with their own negative energy. The first few sentences of these articles usually begin with “are there plenty of toxic people at your office?” which then slowly includes siblings, friendships, and family. Now some articles help you figure out if you’re one of those people. These articles allow you to pause for a while, pretend to be an outsider and check your behavior: Do you neglect your friends? Do you enjoy drama and being the center of attention? Do you always blame other people?
If you’ve answered yes to some of the questions, that’s fine because there’s a teeny tiny bit of toxicity in everyone and there is nothing wrong with that. If you’re toxic because you don’t have high self-esteem and you’re afraid of a lot of things, that’s also fine because all of us experienced that at some point in our lives. Sometimes our emotions get the best of us and we do crazy things because we feel left out, desperate, or scared. These are things that we’re not proud of and we’d rather forget, but these are also experiences that taught us a thing or two about ourselves. We can always stand up when we fall, start anew, and work on ways to improve ourselves. It’s futile to play the blame game and wait for other people to change because you will only be disappointed. Instead, focus on yourself and find ways to be happy. If you’ve been hurt in the past, we won’t tell you to just drop everything and move on because we know that letting go is a long process and that needs to be respected. There are plenty of ways to start your healing and ward off that cloud of negativity. Read below and hopefully, these steps will help you find your way back to yourself.
Start Believing in Yourself
This is step one. You need to stop doubting yourself. Instead of giving love to people who don’t deserve it, give it to yourself. The common mistake that a lot of people make is that they keep loving the wrong people until their love meter reaches the zero mark. You can read self-help books that empower you and help you remember the things that you forgot when you were depressed. Once you regain your confidence, you’ll feel awesome, empowered, and ready to do some ass-kicking.
Daily Spa Treatment
When you enter a spa, your body begins to relax. This is because the scent tells your brain to unwind, destress, and think of happy memories. Daily trips to the spa can be quite expensive so we won’t recommend that. However, you can still create an ambience similar to the spa by buying a nice set of essential oils. These will help you get through some bad days, channel positive juju, and relax. Choose essential oils that are therapeutic grade and have no fillers or additives.
Short Love Letters
We’re not talking about Facebook notes because that’s no fun. Instead, kick it old-school and write notes to your friends and family. Hand-written notes show that you thought of them, and seeing your handwriting on the card will make them want to treasure it even more.
Color your Stress Away
Crafts and colors have healing powers. If you feel like you’re about to explode, grab a coloring book and fill in those blank spaces with color- this is the reason why most of the shelves in book stores are now dominated by adult coloring books. The designs are intricate, the pages are of good quality, and the simple ace of playing with colors is very therapeutic. You can use watercolor, oil pastel, crayons, colored pencils and gel pens to release the stress and start healing.
Enjoy a Cup of Hot Tea
There are bad days that can be fixed with a cup of hot tea. You can whip up a yummy blend of rose hips, peppermint, hibiscus and lemongrass that can brighten your spirits and make you feel awesome without having to deal with artificial ingredients and caffeine. It tastes great, makes you feel great, and it’s the perfect way to end a long and stressful day.
Earphones In, Volume Up
Tune out the world by plugging those earphones in and listening to your favorite tunes. Sometimes your brain becomes too crowded with your own thoughts and being in a noisy environment doesn’t help any.
Cook a Sumptuous Meal for Yourself
There’s something therapeutic about cooking your own food. It’s also a great way to remind yourself that it is loved and lovable. These days it’s tough to get a decent meal because most foods are dumped with unhealthy ingredients, preservatives, and additives. When you cook for yourself, you’re sure that the ingredients are fresh, and you give your body the nutrients and love it deserves.
Attitude of Gratitude
Some days will feel like the world is attacking you. Out of the billions of people, all the forces in the universe conspired to make things work against you – you lose your job, your boyfriend suddenly decides you’re not compatible with each other, you’re stuck in traffic, it’s raining outside, and you end up breaking down. It sounds ironic but one of the ways to get past these awful days is by saying thank you. Think of your friends and family, look at pictures that sealed good memories and before you know it, you’re already smiling and shaking your head because you had one hell of a day and you managed to end it on a high note despite everything. Our brain can only process one emotion so if it feels like the odds are not in your favor, smile.
Confidence is Key
Shower yourself with compliments when you wake up in the morning and before you go to sleep at night. The mantra can be something like “I love myself” or “I am beautiful”. These phrases will help build your confidence and boost your self-esteem.
One of the reasons why some people take an awfully long time to let go is because they want closure. It’s fine, but sometimes we cannot get it from people who feel like they didn’t do anything wrong. The only solution to this problem is by providing closure for yourself. Accept what happened, forgive yourself, and let go. This will allow you to see the world from a different perspective. It removes the baggage and it helps you get rid of the guilt.
Write Those Thoughts Down
This is perfect for people who like to complain about absolutely everything – food service, weather, some people at the office, etc. If you’re one of those people, do yourself a favor and write all of your complaints on a piece of paper. You release negative emotions as you write and you get to reflect about those issues after writing. Keep a journal and put it on a table beside your bed so you can write down thoughts that are keeping you up at night. Remember: people with ugly thoughts end up having ugly faces. You wouldn’t want that, right?